My Vulnerable Story

When I discovered I was going to become a mother for the first time, I felt scared and unprepared.
I worried about how to truly read my child’s needs, how to make them feel my presence, and how to guide them wisely in life while honoring their individuality and dreams.

These fears where deeply rooted in my generational patterns. I grew up as a people pleaser: kind, adaptable, peaceful, and deeply attuned to others.

But beneath that was a pattern of conflict avoidance, fear of judgment, and a constant effort to keep the peace—often at the cost of my own needs.

Inside me lived a strong intention: to be different. I dreamed of raising children who felt free to look at their emotions with compassion rather than judgment.

As a new mother, my inner child turned out to be deeply empathetic and attuned but often neglecting my own needs.

I found myself stuck in cycles of reactivity, guilt, and confusion.
Yelling and struggling identifying the “why” behind any behaviours and not focusing on what my kids were communicating me with that. 
My goal was to get rid of the reactions and not reading the symptom, missing the opportunity to connect with their individualities. 

What I didn’t realize at the time was that my struggle wasn’t about my children behaviour at all—it was about my own relationship with emotions, mistakes, and connection.
In those moments of doubt, one song became my anchor: “The power is here now” by Alexia Chellun. 

Those words kept circling in my head. Feeling unprepared, struggling to find the right tools, I immersed myself in the theory of Secure Attachment (John Bowlby) and the techniques of Emotion Coaching (John Gottman). Through reflection, healing, and emotional work, I’ve grown into a securely attached parent—offering my children the stable, loving foundation I once longed for.